Are you taking time for you? I’m finding myself with more time to be mindful. Initially I learned meditation with a mindfulness group. We sat in silence and kept bringing the attention back to the breath.
Of course, I was sure I was doing it wrong because my brain kept bopping around. But the trick is to notice the brain bop. Then bring your thoughts back to the breath.
Simple! Or so you’d think
But sometimes when we go off on a ‘mind tangent‘ we’re looking at things that are mindful. Things that matter. When the brain slows we focus. Focused thinking is being mindful.
Recently as I was practicing mindfulness I had some thoughts on apologies. You know, how we either over apologize, or lean to the teaching never say sorry. Holistic lifestyle involves being open and honest with ourselves. Here’s my thoughts:
I don’t believe in the ‘never apologize’ approach to life. Sometimes we hurt people’s feelings. Not with malice and intent. But just because we’re busy doing our own thing.
Or maybe just not taking the time to pay attention to how someone is reacting to our words.
Even just bring insensitive or thoughtless. We’re human and we make mistakes.
Saying sorry doesn’t imply that I meant to hurt. It means I now see what I did or said, how it has impacted you, and I feel your pain.
However, there is a place of being me and showing up as me that I won’t apologize for. I won’t ram my feelings, beliefs and opinions down people’s throats. But I reserve the right be unashamedly me.
I don’t set out to hurt or offend. I do set out to be the best me I can be. Your understanding is not required. Isn’t it time we started to validate ourselves and stop trying to make everyone understand us?